Don’t Let Advancing Age Hamper your Sex Life!
Sexual health is important no matter what your age. Obviously, sex in 60s is not going to be the same as 20s or 30s. But that doesn’t mean it has to be miserable either.
It is important to know what aspects of your sex life are likely to change, and how you and your partner can familiarize yourself with those changes. This knowledge can help you have a fulfilling and rewarding sex life even in your senior years.
Here are a few things you can do to keep the fire burning:
Talking to your partner is extremely important. Share your feelings, apprehensions, likes, dislikes, and things that you two would do in your younger years.
Be honest and let your partner understand what you want from them. Be receptive to what they have to say as well. Tell them what you are going through – emotionally and physically. Ensure you set time aside for this kind of intimacy. After all, it all starts in small talks.
If a woman does not get her menstrual period for 12 months in a row, then we can say she has reached menopause. If your woman has not yet reached menopause, it is advisable to use some kind of birth control to avoid pregnancy, which in senior years can be risky, difficult, and even embarrassing. Your EPIC Primary Care doctor will be happy to guide you regarding the ideal birth control mechanism for you.
Regardless of your age, it is important to practice safe sex. It is always advisable to use condom if you are going to have sex with a new partner. Your EPIC Primary Care physician can also guide you on how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases.
Those in a long-term monogamous relationship may not need to worry too much about protection. However, it is advisable to use a condom until you’re absolutely sure.
Men’s Sexual Health
Testosterone, the male hormone, is a critical element in ensuring sexual health in males. Though the levels of testosterone are different among different men, it is observed to be lower in older men. In fact, once a man crosses 30 years, testosterone levels start falling at about 1 % every year.
Erectile dysfunction is also common in older males. Some men may experience delayed or inadequate erections as well and need more time to get fully aroused and experience orgasm and ejaculation.
Older men can use different types of medications to achieve and sustain adequate erection to reenergize their sexual life. It is advisable to consult your EPIC Primary Care doctor for a prescription rather than taking self-medication.
Women’s sexual health
Estrogen level in women decreases as they near menopause. This can bring a host of problems– especially decreased libido and vaginal dryness. They may also experience fluctuating emotions and feel very stressed which often leads to loss or lack of interest in sex.
Again, it should be borne in mind that not all women may feel so. Some may be carefree in spirit and in fact, be more enthusiastic about sex as they don’t have to worry about pregnancy. Other women may think that they are less attractive and desirable because of changes taking place in their appearance.
General Health Status, Medications and Sexual Health
Any illness, infection or condition you have may have an effect on your sexual health and libido. Hypertension, diabetes, hormonal imbalances, mental health disorders and many other issues –can create hurdles in your sexual life.
Medicines used in the management and treatment of these and other chronic conditions can cause you to be inhibited towards sex. In fact, there are some medicines that can hamper your ability to get arousal or orgasm.
Consult your EPIC Primary Care doctor if you feel that your current medications are affecting your sex life. Your doctor will change or add new medicines to reduce the negative side effects.
Many surgical procedures can impact your sexual life, especially if it has anything to do with your pelvic region or central nervous system. However, the human body is amazingly resilient. Just allow sufficient time for healing and take proper rest while you recover. And you will find that your sexual response has improved and your sex life is back on track.
Illness of one Partner
Any acute injury or illness – even flu, will of course put a break on your sex life. If your partner is in pain, you cannot think of sex.
Again, communication is the key here. Talk to your partner about how you can be close and intimate in other ways during this period.
Differences in desire
It is common for partners to have different sex drives. However, some couples sometimes get stuck in patterns such one person initiates, the other avoids, and so on.
If you are the avoider, think about making the first move at times. If you are the initiator always, talk to your partner that you’d like them to be the initiator some times. If you think that this can lead to tension and trouble, you can always begin like this: ‘I think I feel better when…’, or ‘I think it’s more exciting for me when…’, rather than making blunt statements like ‘Why don’t you…’, or ‘You should..’
Don’t Dwell on the Past
Sure, you were dynamite in your 20s,30s and probably, 40s, but thinking that you want your sex life to be the same now is pointless. Find new ways to arouse your partner and optimize your sexual responses. Discuss what is acceptable, exciting or satisfying now.
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